Quote: "You being jealous because you perceive I'm having a happy life doesn't seem like a good enough reason for us to get back together."
From the one who was the LBS this is very accurate and I can give you a look into our side and how we feel. My W seemed to come back the minute I found some happiness and relief from the pain. I resented her for that. She caused me great pain and then created confusion, doubt, and more pain by coming back. Now the LBS is the one feeling like they are responsible for deciding on a marriage and the pressure and guilt is immense.
This may be hard for you to hear but I imagine, like me, that your H may feel like you don't deserve him. You left and broke a trust. Although I imagine you felt like he broke a trust in you which may be in part what compelled you to have to leave. I'm not trying to place blame, just explain how he may view things. He may not be able to trust what you say or do b/c you took something away from him and he will be afraid to come back and to let you do it again.
The new R he is in is probably very easy for him to handle right now. No baggage, no hurt, no fears to deal with right now. It's all new and mostly pain free. That's hard to turn away from and to face the pain again.
I did make the decision to leave my other R and explore the possiblity of us again and it is unbelievably hard. I waiver every day.
