Thank you all so much for your support. These are trying days and it's such a relief to come here and know there are others who know what it feels like.
Quote: did you express that jealousy? Or did you tell your LBS that you were happy for them, wanted them to move on etc etc etc.
It was a rollercoaster. At first I said I was happy for him and wanted him to be happy - then I freaked out (just a few days later) when I realised what I was going to miss and there was a week I'd rather forget of embarrassing late night calls - then fortunately I stumbled across this web-site (late one night when I'd taken a 10 minute break from drinking wine and calling his mobile). I ordered DR on-line and read everything I could here. (I sweated on the book arriving and it took over 2 weeks to come from the US!!! It was a long 2 weeks!) I backed right off and continued to support his decision. True to the DR philosophy the more supportive I've been of him, the more he has come towards me. As I think I've said before he never mentions OP to me anymore.
It is probably worthwhile noting that in one particular backslide, some months ago he said to me "For goodness sake - you left me - what do you expect me to do, live like a monk?" and I replied "I'm jealous, I don't want OP to have you, I love you."
and he said, tellingly, "You being jealous because you perceive I'm having a happy life doesn't seem like a good enough reason for us to get back together." I couldn't argue with that.
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
