Quote: Your reply to me a few days ago brought up a few more questions on my part. At what point did you realize that the depression and issues were of your making. Was there some huge epiphany or did you just wake up one morning feeling different.
I would love to hear this too...My H started all this mess when his Mom got sick (cancer). I could see him going into depression, starting to be irritable...ect. But in his mind, being married to me was the problem, and if he could only get rid of me, he could find happiness, maybe with OW. But I've been gone 4 mo, he's no happier, and since the EA with OW came into the open, he doesn't feel as "free" to pursue it since all family/coworkers would know it had its roots before either he or OW was divorced. So the man is STILL miserable, but now blaming it on the fact he misses kids and the divorce is not final yet! I wonder when he will wake up and realize his unhappiness was something in himself? I learned that's not something you can just TELL someone, even if I could see that, he has to figure that one out himself!
Not meaning to steal your thread, but I think this is pretty common in WAS...your insight here is very precious to many of us LBS! Thanks for being here! VJ
