WalkingBack, thanks for dropping in on my thread. It's good to see another Aussie on the BB, although I am up the other end in Cairns. (I have a brother working in chilly Canberra though, and actually sent S13 down last holidays to the snow). It is interesting to hear your insights into being a WAW. It helps a little in trying to understand my WAH (who is I think in MLC). I agree that having your brother-in-law visit is a great opportunity, especially when all the fun things you do get back to H . It may make him realise what he is missing out on, which has to be a good thing.