Not a bad idea actually. A few months ago I had to go to the USA for work for a few weeks, we were separated and he was with OP, but because it was a long trip and I had a lot of luggage I asked H to take me to the airport - which he did without question - then he offered to pick me up when I got home which I accepted. I didn't think much about it until now, but your right. I'll have to check my diary to see when my next trip is ...

Journalling

I've just spent a v. nice weekend GAL. I went on a girls weekend away with 8 other women, 3 dozen bottles of good wine and a heap of board games, cards and novels (I read a fantastic novel (novella really) - The Alchemist, by Paulo Coelho - about a boy looking for and finding his Personal Legend and trusting the signs the universe sends you. It's about the importance of listening to your heart). It was v. good for my soul to get away from the city and really spend some time with other women (mothers) without children, husbands, signficant others, bosses, parents etc etc. I can strongly recommend it for building and keeping a PMA.

As I suspected there was signficant interest in my situation and lots of advice to be shared. I've decided that everyone has a view based on their own experience and that doesn't necessarily translate to my personal experience and I really have to listen to my heart to be sure I'm making the right decisions for me.

There is another woman in our group who has been separated for 18 months who came with the news that she and her XH are talking about reconciling. Basically she had an affair, it ended but her h found out about it and they broke up, she then had a relationship for a couple of months with the affair man but they weren't compatible broke up - same old same old... BUT, she and XH were both invited to a mutual friends wedding in the UK in March of this year which they attended (separately), but ended up spending time there together and did some travelling with each other, remembered what they liked about each other and now are thinking about getting back together - or at least being mates again. Interestingly she and I not only share a similar sitch, but the same birthday (that bl@@dy saturn conjunction for the last 2 years in Cancer I reckon!!) We agreed that there is wisdom in the old adage that it always darkest before the dawn.

I last spoke to H last Thursday when we went to the accountant together (which was a very friendly, upbeat excursion). He left a message on the machine that I heard when I got in this afternoon that he was leaving his car for my step son to use today and he'll pick it up tomorrow morning. Weird?

So nothing to report - I'm practicing patients, getting a life, listening to my heart .... there's a lot to remember!!

V

Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.