Yes he has behaved/is behaving badly. Of that I have no doubt.
He did not cause me to lose custody of DD1 or DD2 - I voluntarily surrendered them because I was mentally ill at the time and couldn't look after them.
He did cause me to lose custody of DD3, though, and I admit that wasn't fair, as I was 'together' mentally by that stage.
I didn't care about EX-OW living in the house because her bf was also there. It did piss me off that she was hijacking my mother role, though.
The car incident was awful; everyone knows that and I know there was no excuse for it. So does he. He wants to put it in the past and I don't want to use it as a beating stick against him forever.
Yes he hasn't told OW2 but he has told me he's not sleeping with her anymore so their physical R is obviously over. She will get the message even if he doesn't tell her. And if he doesn't, I will. I happen to be looking forward to that part
No she isn't aware of it, but everyone else is (and he knows that my friends know so obviously she will end up knowing). He doesn't mind that my friends know.
Andy always was nervous of having R talks, before this even happened and even during the M. Discussion of R issues is not his strong point. He's very male in that respect and keeps his feelings in a lot.
I also feel if I continually bring up bad stuff that has happened, I will be re-living the pain all the time and not actually enjoying my life at all. I did bad stuff to him also, like when he first left I tried to stab myself in front of him (he stopped me), I took 3 OD's and slashed myself across the stomach when I was pregnant with his child.
He has been really badly hurt by this and it's taken him a long time to get these images out of his head. I was on EEG etc in hospital at risk of possible heart failure, while he was left with the kids.
I stopped my last pregnancy without his approval; I slept with people straight afterwards, including his brother - when we had been house hunting prior to that. He had to cope with losing his baby and me being unfaithful with his brother, of all people. I even divorced him without his approval or signiture.
That's why he moved EX-OW into his house. I pushed them together by my actions at that time.
I am not blameless in all of this, and he has treated me badly, but things always happen for a reason. It takes looking at it from both sides to see why someone reacts the way they do.
But as for OW2 - you're right, I will not put up with her.
