The following statements are in no way endorsed by anyone other than myself and may anger the reader. I am only offering my outsiders perspective. This being said I want nothing but happiness for you Jo and do not want to see you hurt as you derserve better.
Let me see if I follow?
A now almost 31 year old male leaves his wife and four daughters and becomes involved with another woman. Considerable emotional and court battles ensue, with the mother of the children losing custody of three of the girls.
A considerable time later then ex-husband professes his confusion, doubt and love to the ex-wife and they start moving closer, but the girlfriend (ex or otherwise) and family continue to live in his house.
Ex-husband then takes up with second girlfriend. More arguments and anger with ex-wife and he one day bullies her with the car.
Time passes. Ex-husband begins to spend more time with daughters at ex-wife's house, no doubt with the knowledge of current girlfriend.
Ex-husband proclaims his single status while failing to tell this to girlfriend or break off the relationship. Continues to spend inordinate amount of time with ex-wife, I suspect without girlfriends knowledge. Ex-wife and ex-husband engage in physical activity again I suspect without the girlfriend's knowing.
Ex-husband becomes very nervous talking about the future, even only a week ahead.
