I dropped the MLC bomb on DW in June of 2003. [Looking back, my actual MLC did not really begin until Spring of 1999] DW and I were still living in the marital home. It took me a while to get out of my MLC tunnel. I made some noises about getting back together the first time around November 2003...but DW kept pushing me away. In 20/20 hindsight, DW had already begun her EA with the OP around that time or before that.
The OP came to our house around January of 2004. I thought nothing of it as DW and the OP had been long-time friends. Here's a bit of info on DW and OP: they were college sweethearts long before DW and I started dating. [DW and I started dating in 1994]
I suspect that their connections became PA around the time of the OP's visit in January 2004. I tried to get DW back in the M. Did all of the crying, begging and pleading. DW and OP continued their long-distance A [they lived in different states] with plane visits, phone calls, IMs, & webcams. Finally, DW moved out of the state in August of 2004. Needless to say, my world crashed afterwards. I wrote DW several letters---probably more of the CBP sh!t.
I did not come across this BB until October 1st. Since then, I have written cards to DW (Halloween, pictures of our dog--it got one long email response from DW). Have gotten no response from DW during that Fall of 2004 except for that long email saying that "I need to work on my issues." Things got slightly warmer around X-mas when I sent her the first gift for the holidays. Then it was back to being cold--I continued with short cards, emails, mini-gifts from January until May of 2005.
Things did not get better until around Memorial Day Weekend (MDW) which is the end of May in the States. It was during that time that DW flew to visit her parents in their home state because my FIL had gone to the hospital because of a bad fall. DW drove down to our marital home because she wanted to bring our dog to her parents' home to spend some time with the dog. It was the first time we had been in each other's presence in a long time (last time was for the dog switch over the Xmas holidays) and we got into a small R talk. [For more information, feel free to visit my thread over in the Newcomer's Forum: Determined & Steadfast]
After the MDW visit, DW's emails have gotten a bit more longer and a bit more friendly. Which is encouraging to say the least. However, I am still not seeing any concrete movement from DW to engage in any R/M talk [I've not initiated any nor will!] or hear anything from her about herself, her life...etc.
