I am a frequent lurker of your thread and I am amazed at the recent developments in your sitch. Like Gabe, I have some questions that could provide some clarity for DBers.
I have been physically separated from my DW for over a year since she moved in with the OP and the OP's mother out of state. I still live at the marital home. In the past few months, I have sent DW cards, emails and small gifts related to our pets (we have no children) since she has the cat and I have the dog (they've been together since they were 8 weeks old). In short, DW has become warmer and responsive.
Still no movements toward me or even thinking about moving back home. No conversations at all!! DW doesn't even talk about herself, ask about me or talk about what she does for a living. Nothing of that nature.
I am now struggling with making a decision about my sitch. Should I go all LRT and go dark on my DW? My question to you, Jo, is have you ever gone "dark" on Andy and pulled out the LRT on him? If so, how long was being "dark" in effect? Did it draw out Andy?
