...I think my freedom to have male friends, innocent as it may be is gone forever.
What if you were hanging out with female friends and their male friend showed up? I was thinking I could come up with three or four of us. Maybe later. Much, much later.
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Quote: Let me know what you think about the KLA CDs. I've thought about getting them but the name scares me.
Sorry to hijack your thread Heather. I wanted to comment on the KLA CD's.
I got the CD's and signed up for 3 phone sessions. I think that the CD's are great. Michelle reiterates come of the stuff in the DR book. Unfortunately the only CD's that were applicable to my sitch (right now) were the LRT CD and the CD on D. I would recommend them b/c what you learn from the CD's, depending on your sitch, can be applied to your current R/M or to a future R/M. Either way, do it for you.
Having a great day today. I told my kiddy cats we could do whatever they wanted and S4 said he wanted to stay home and play. He has a ton of toys, more than any boy could want lol, but I gotta say he plays with *all* of them. Like his dad, he is a true toy conniseour (sp?). You get the picture. He helped me clean up his room today. Ok, well he played while I cleaned his room. Believe me, it wasn't a task to bestow on a four year old I gathered one huge bag to give away and one huge bag to throw away. I tell ya, those McDonald's happy meal toys pile up faster than one might imagine...ahem, especially as often as we go.... Hey, they have apples now instead of fries and milk instead of Hi-C, so they're not as bad as they used to be.... So anyway, it's been a productive day. I was thinking that if H was here, he would have been playing with the kids while I cleaned. That would have irritated me. Weekend mornings are not good for H and I b/c it is my time to clean and his time to sleep or play or.....you get it. But if he's not here, the cleaning feels great. I love it. I love a newly picked up and vacuumed house. So, I suppose when he's here and doesn't help, I feel resentful. Very resentful. Guess I need to work on that. Focus more on the fact that I like to do it, I like the outcome and forget that he's being lazy, er, I mean productive in some other wonderful way.
So after cleaning, we went to the madhouse. No, not Wal-Mart. The other madhouse, aka Costco. A madhouse today in particular b/c they have good gas prices. I spent $144. If you don't want to spend money, don't go to Costco. I love that place. Got lots of yummy things to eat.
And now kids are watching Spiderman and I'm about to make dinner. Cheeze ravioli and texas toast. No, not Chef Boyardee, I know I said I frequent McDonalds, but you don't have to keep referring back to that!
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
It's funny what you say about how much happier you are doing the housework when he's not there playing with the kids.
I find now that I'm solely in charge of housework, I resent it far less. I'm not thinking "We're supposed to be partners!!" etc. Now if I pass a toy left out, I just pick it up and move along. When Rob was here I would leave it hoping he'd pick it up, and resent him for not helping out. Childish stuff like that.
Now it doesn't seem like so much work to do it all alone, but when he lived here I was buried under an avalanche of "It's not fair!"s. I am the only option, so I just do it and don't give it a second thought.
And McD's???? I'm SHOCKED! SHOCKED to hear of a mother feeding her children such junk!
If only it wasn't so easy. And I think they should outlaw Happy Meal toys. We are sufficiently motivated enough by the convenience... they don't need to ply us with plastic pieces of sh*t!!! I secretly throw then out while the kids sleep.
Quote: We are sufficiently motivated enough by the convenience... they don't need to ply us with plastic pieces of sh*t!!! I secretly throw then out while the kids sleep.
I usually do too, but some sneak through. And you know what? When I throw them out, they *never* miss them, lol. So you're right! Why the hell does McD's even bother with them???? Lower the price of the Happy Meal by the .03 that the toy is worth and we'll all be happy as the name implies.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
Talked to H tonight. Told him I missed him. He said "You do huh? It sounds like you're doing just fine." I said "I am. That makes it even a bigger compliment." I don't know though. Maybe he wants to be needed. That seems to hard to fake. I just don't. I have been having a wonderful time since he's been gone. My time spent with the kids has been awesome. My patience has improved. S4 is on a great sleeping routine. This morning he was up on his own at 8:15 instead of me having to wake him up, so it's more like a kids' schedule. I mean, what four year old sleeps in til 10am?? My sense is only those that get to sleep waaay to late. Usually I miss his help with the kids. Putting them both in carseats, getting them both out, handling them both when we go places, neutralizing fights. This time, I honestly haven't even missed his help. Maybe cause the kids are getting bigger and they're listening better.....cuz they understand consequences better, lol. So, I told him I missed him because I wanted him to feel missed, trying to create good feelings. But I don't really miss him. On a positive note though, I do feel more friendly toward him. Re-establishing the friendship is a really important step, so I will place a lot of heavy weight on the fact that I feel more friendly and regard it as a big step in the right direction.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
Yes! Finally...and can I admit out loud that I LOVE that show? My kids know they aren't allowed to watch, and they sit there and say "mom, you tell us not to watch trash". Well, yes, dear, but Mommy needs a bit of trash in her life!
Oh darn, I was hoping to continue to refer to it as funny I have watched far worse, I am a reality tv fan that goes way back. I think I've watched every season of the Bachelor and Bachelorette. I watched the first season of Apprentice, didn't have time for the second. So anyway, for me, DH is a step up
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
I gathered one huge bag to give away and one huge bag to throw away. I tell ya, those McDonald's happy meal toys pile up faster than one might imagine...ahem, especially as often as we go.... 
Hey, they have apples now instead of fries and milk instead of Hi-C, so they're not as bad as they used to be.... 