he said I know, so it's not possible to have an intimate threesome? Wow. So I asked what his definition of intimate was. He got uncomfortable. He said a connection, an emotional closeness. Really? So not only do you think sex with a third person is a viable option, but an emotional connection to a third person is also a viable option.
OMG, he's just agreed to your A.
"No further questions, your Honor. The Defense rests."
If I were to mention bringing a second man into our bedroom, you would be ok with that?" He said "I certainly woundn't become enraged by the idea...". Yeah right!! The guy who can't forive me for kissing someone else is going to be fine with witnessing another guy...ok, you get the idea. Bullsh!t!!
Probably because he believes that it would be just sex, permitable because of your agreement to it, and feels that there would not be consequences; that he'd not get involved beyond that. Compare that self assuredness we all have with the doubts we may cultivate about others: "Well I know I'd be strong enough to not give in, but I don't know if I can say the same about my partner". You know what I mean?
However, be it known that there can be consequences. You've posted one such case, I recall someone I knew whose wife wanted to try threesomes, and at first it was sexually exciting to the guy to see his wife with another man, but when in time she craved more, he began to express concerns to me that he was losing her. There can be other consequences, it's a Pandora's Box. To be in the swinger's lifestyle, you really, really have to be able to detach from your partner and let go.
