Well, H has definitely displayed his old self this weekend.
Well, crap.
So, he gets up but doesn't help with anything and after we finish eating (H wouldn't eat), H has his head down on the table.
Why? Was it 5:30 in the AM? Did he get to bed late? If not he really needs to check and see if he has a sleep disorder.
I just ignored it as though it wasn't happening, kept talking to him, asking questions and making statements the same way I would have any other time. Is that a good reaction do you think?
I wouldn't take my advice before the book's, but yours seems like a reasonable approach, at least for now. Being direct with him about emotional abuse his first day back doesn't seem likely to bring good results. I think you're setting yourself up nicely to be able to say, in the near future, "Look, I've been calm and have given you every opportunity to address some issues but you haven't. Now we need to talk." And bring up whatever you need to address. Probably he won't agree that you've been calm, but *you'll* know you have been so you can deflect that if need be.
You're off to a good start regardless of whether he is or not. Give him a few days or a week to consolidate his feces. Look for signs of improvement. Be firm and stand up for yourself. Make him believe it.
I'm looking forward to an uneventful "going to daycare" post tomorrow.
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