I have recently become disillusioned with my cheating WAW, so my advice may have been different a month or so ago when I was wearing my rose colored glasses, but I agree with LBH, pull the plug on her financially. You can still DB and try to draw her back into your life, but it sounds like she is just being a parasite right now. Just my opinion. Again, I'm a bit bitter and disillusioned, so maybe other, more stalwart DBers may have different advice.
