As I expressed earlier, her Bday is next week and I feel like I should make some overture to celebrate it. She even casually mentioned to me, if you were planning on getting me anything for my bday, don't bother, I know money is tight. This statement has been said many times in the past during tight financial times, and there was no difference in the delivery of it this time. So she's not refusing anything, and I already said I had something in mind that wouldn't cost a whole lot, to which she replied with a curious, "oh!?!"
You have to learn "girl speak".
"If you were planning on getting me anything for my bday, don't bother, I know money is tight"
actually means
"Surprise me with something!!!"
I had already expressed concern to her family that I wasn't sure if I should be in the wedding, as I don't want to be photoshopped out of all the photos at a later date.
Why be so fatalistic? Be in the photos, you have no idea how your participation and presence may positively affect things. It certainly gives you loads of ops, and not just photo ops.
we have been enjoying positive interaction, I just don't know if I'm cracking the emotional wall at this point, and am any closer to some display of affection. That was one of my goals, to have her offer me an unsolicited hug or kiss at some point. am I being unrealistic?
I know MWD writes of goals as pertaining to the steps the LBS would like to see from the WAS, but their steps are of their own making and come in their own time. I'd love to see physical affection coming from my WAS, more than the hugs she gives me, so the question becomes, what must I be doing as my goals, rather than hers, for now.
