Thanks for the input Bink and Gibeon, I've actually moved out of this forum and over to MLC new MLC thread here
But I've been having some positive interaction with my W, although she had a major MLC meltdown the other day. She had since apologized, admitting that there is something drastically wrong with her, she suspects chemically. However, when I saw her last night after work she was as normal as could be. She even invited me to join her and her coworker for a glass of wine. We sat and laughed and joked about some of the good old days. It was the way things used to be. I know her coworker is in my corner, we had a talk before I began DB'ing and she told me to hang in there, even though I thought things were at their lowest. She had told me that she can't believe that my W had anything to complain about in our R because my W was always telling how strong our M was and that was how she knew we would survive our son's death. She was equally baffled as to the separation, but she is trying to be supportive as a friend, so I haven't talked to her since because I don't want to put her in the middle. I know my wife needs somebody she can trust and confide in, and if it can't be me, I'd prefer it be somebody that at least likes me. But, it was good to laugh with her again. She didn't seem the least bit tense in my presence. However, this morning when I was taking our son for his first day of school, I commented about how I liked her pony tail and that was always one of my favorite looks for her, and her reply was "will you stop doing that already!" She told me the other day she was having a hard time with me being so nice to her all of the time. I'm sure it's making her feel guilty because she feels no compulsion to return the compliment. I expressed some concern about this in my other thread as to whether I should stop or continue. Am I violating one of her "boundaries", or is she testing my fortitude and stamina to keep changes going?
