I would have to agree that the MLC'ers have had some kind of nervous breakdown...because it hits so hard so fast...at least my husband it was almost overnight...and being the person I am...I noticed it right away...guess since my first marriage I never noticed anything...this one I notice everything...kids included...I am just one for detail now. My H did a complete flip and has been stuck there ever since..ever 2nd day he gives me a sign of hope...then back to it again...last night I asked him why, if he hates me and wants a divorce, why can't I date...threw him for a loop...he said because we were married...(blah blah blah)...so I just went to sleep...he was breathing real heavy...in the middle of the night he had a nightmare...and held me real tight for 10 whole minutes...amazing...tonight he said he had changed this weekend plans...however, as I said...every 2nd day is another different day...tonight he is off with OW again...so whatever...this is a mean evil cycle...and MLC'ers tend to make their spouse go thro' their own mid life even if they aren't there yet...UGH...so I keep trying to think he has done me a favor for making me stronger...and giving me a game plan for ME...which he knows nothing of...and technically...I don't either...is a day to day plan...LOL... I am trying to keep my head up...but spouses of MLC'ers go thro' many emotions...and if you look...I have had ups and downs to....one must remember to take everything in small chunks...and find something (even tho' tiny) hopeful...be it something to do with your M, R, H, or just YOU....that is what I have learnt...and sometimes I hinder and fall...but I stand up again...you must remember that...everything from here on in is in 'baby steps' like it or not...I know I don't like it at all...so focus on what I do like...>ME!
