Anybody got any advice on things I should say to her?
I think you got it. Stay on that track.
You shouldn't say anything much more to her. Let her talk. Follow her lead. She's going to tell you her conflicted feelings, how she thinks this is what she needs to do, yadda, yadda. She may not be entirely forthright or forthcoming with you. She may surprise you with something awful. Be prepared.
It probably won't be easy, so you know that going in. Listen, validate. Stay detached. Don't flinch. Don't drink. Don't argue.
Even in the most adverse of moments, remember there are opportunities to keep it positive/pleasant.
When you're in agreement with someone else's viewpoint, they can't argue with you. They can try to get you to argue, but you control your reactions.
That doesn't mean you're a doormat, nor does it mean you're really of their opinion, you only understand how they're walking in their moccasins and agree that they're entitled to feel what they feel.
You've just had a taste of how powerfully that can work.
You are the General deciding when not to advance and when to retreat, because your goal is to win the war, not every battle.
The relationshp will probably not be saved today, OK? Today just reflects today. It could be saved down the road with every positive step bringing it that much closer.
