Well, I got home from work yesterday and picked up my copy of DR to continue reading, and inserted inside was a letter from my W. It should have been ticking because it was bomb I expected. Sorry for this, sorry for that, didn't mean for this to happen, attracted to another guy, have to explore these feelings, still love you, don't know if I'm in love with you....yada, yada, yada. I read it a couple of times to see what might be between the lines, but it was pretty straight forward, with a call me when you're ready to talk. Well, I went out with the softball team as planned. Called S6 to say goodnight, and asked to speak to W (haven't done this on any other calls), could hear the apprehension in her voice when she came to the phone. I was incredibly pleasant, and said I got her letter, and her tone of voice had a sound of irritation about it. And I simply said, "hey, I'm cool, I'm okay with it"...she stopped and said "you are?!?!" with an incredible amount of disbelief. I said yeah, I've been preparing myself for it and I expected it, however, I was a tad bit insulted that she thought that I was that dumb that I wouldn't catch on that something was up. She got defensive immediately, and said "wait a minute" nothing is up, nothing has happened. I explained that's not what I meant, but said I had been doing a lot of reading and soul searching and I finally understand why she felt the way she did, and why she needed to leave, and I understand that there are things that I could have done differently that might have prevented that. I said I'm ready to talk any time she wants, so we're having dinner tonight to discuss the sitch. I think I shocked her by my remarkable calm, and I intend to remain so this evening when we talk. There is going to be no accusations, no need for her to get defensive, and I'm going to validate her feelings and decisions. Anybody got any advice on things I should say to her?
