I've been reading this sight on and off for 9 months (sometimes for hours at a time), but have only just started posting for exactly all those reasons you guys have stated.

I realised though that there is some serious therapy to be had here and an opportunity to share in a reasonably sensible community of interest.

I started posting myself because I was worried about living vicariously through other people's dramas and thought it was time to put myself on the line as well and risk the comments and rebukes that members do when you put your innermost thoughts and most personal suffering on the www!!!

I don't think it's a bad thing to spend time at this BB - I think it's just another form of channelling energy that might otherwise be used thinking up unhealthy revenge on spouses or OP.

And speaking of revenge - When I first started reading this BB someone, could have been NYS, wrote something that really appealed to me along the lines of "the best revenge you can get on the OP is to let them keep your spouse" - with pearls of wisdom like that floating around I don't think we are hurting our mental health!!!

Walkingback

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