You've received the usual sound advice from NYS. Just wanted to point out a sad rule of thumb in the world of infidelity. I was first told this rule of thumb by a private investigator I spoke to a week before I confirmed that my W was cheating. I also just read it in Shirley Glass' "Not 'Just Friends'". The rule says that a marriage is a relationship that is built on trust. When you have a suspicion that that trust has been broken, more often than not, your suspicions are correct.
I hope in your case that this rule doesn't apply. Looking back on my stitch before I discovered the A, I can see how I knew more than I wanted to admit to myself.
DBing can work. Read the books. Listen to the advice here. Good luck.
