Still trying....

[DonH]

Hi honey - it's me your nemesis (how can I be one if I'm not even sure how to spell it I don't know but) Are you starting with a beginners mind? Are you asking for what you want? How is H supposed to know that this is not what you want, when in your own words you have been doing it for two years? We here reading this all understand you have not liked it that you have just put up with it because you thought it was what he wanted. Well it's time to tell him what you want and what you need. You must do this. You can't be upset with him for things he does not know about. For what's it's worth, you are starting to win me over with who I like better in your relationship between you and H. This man clearly needs a lot of work but that doesn't matter, now does it, because we all need a lot of work. No one said this would be easy. Hell you don't even know that he woudln't do what you need him to. All you know is that when you tried one method to change it, it didn't work. Well, okay, then try something else. I'm thinking the direct approach is what he needs. Sit him down and tell him that you need the romance, etc. If he doesn't give it to you that is a reflection on HIM - not on YOU. It's okay to ask for what you need. Actually it's mandatory that you ask for what you need.