WOW you havre grown SO MUCH!! I see so much strength in your posts. I think you are starting to repair the parts of you that have been damaged through this marriage.
Try not to worry about the counseling. You put it out there. If he really wants it he will make it happen.
One thing I noticed is that a friend left a message for another woman on YOUR machine for your husband?? Oh my word I would have been fuming! Sounds like you handled it way better then I ever could have. Because you two did have an agreement you wouldn't see other people. That is just way to much of a coincidence. It sounds like he must be seeing other people. I am sure that has to be swaying his decision back and forth. Of course he can't make up his mind one minute he could be with someone else and be confused. But then maybe he don't see her a couple days and starts thinking about you and missing what you had. He should just make up his mind and stop putting you through this back and forth stuff.
You have handled this with much grace and dignity. Not many women would have tried as hard as you. Just keep following your heart?
Since he has left have you two been intimate at all? I guess the reason I ask is to tell you to be careful. If he has been with other people you just never know who could have a disease. If you do I would make him wear a condom at least to protect yourself.
Oh my word I would have been fuming! Sounds like you handled it way better then I ever could have. Because you two did have an agreement you wouldn't see other people. That is just way to much of a coincidence. It sounds like he must be seeing other people. I am sure that has to be swaying his decision back and forth. Of course he can't make up his mind one minute he could be with someone else and be confused. But then maybe he don't see her a couple days and starts thinking about you and missing what you had. He should just make up his mind and stop putting you through this back and forth stuff. 
