Well, H and I are getting together tomorrow morning around 10am to discuss an agreement again. S9 and S6 will be in school, and I'm dropping S1 off with MIL for the day.
I called H about 2 hours ago to remind him. He said he would be here..."no problem"...but he sounded a little weepy....reality's setting in, I guess. I know the feeling.
Anyway, I'm still going to ask for the same thing -- that the kids and I get to stay in the house while he continues to pay for everything, and if he does this, I will not ask for child support, but I can't waive the alimony. If I do, I can never get it back, and I know I'm going to need it to help pay for my schooling. I'm looking at about 3 or 4 years until I can have that first REAL job...one that I can be very proud of because I worked so hard to get it . Then when I'm financially independent and the alimony's gone, I can ask for child support.
Geez...sometimes I can't stand the way it sounds when I talk about child and/or spousal support. It's not about the money...it's about what is right and what is fair. I don't know...(I say that a lot, don't I? )...maybe I feel a little uneasy about it because even though H would say it was "our" money, it just always felt to me like it was "his" money...because he worked, and I didn't.
He really rubbed that fact in my face...too many times...and he did a very good job at it, too, because it's bothering me now....alright, now that's my fault for letting it. Gotta stop right there!
Well if anyone has any to spare, please send me some positive (((((vibes))))) for tomorrow morning! I know when we talked the other day, H said he'd do what I wanted....but that was then, and this is now.... just like he hated me one day then loved me a few days later.
Hmmm...we'll see. Thanks for listening.
JV
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination."
Valerie
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." ~ author unknown
. Then when I'm financially independent and the alimony's gone, I can ask for child support.
)...maybe I feel a little uneasy about it because even though H would say it was "our" money, it just always felt to me like it was "his" money...because he worked, and I didn't.
