Thank you SO much for the compliment on my thread! I have always felt that your H's comments to you when he chose to put you and your abilities down sounded pretty juvenile. My H was known to belittle my interactions with my stepchildren down... So, I asked myself when he was doing this to me: "How does it make me feel?"... "Do I feel supported?"... Both with respect to me as an individual and with respect to my ability to help parent his children. "Do I feel respected?"... "Do I feel that he trusts me to make decisions about life?"... To be honest, he did NOT suppport my relationship with his kids... He was threatened by it... He would put my abilities down and even question my ability to help him parent. I find myself asking if he was supportive of me. That is a big requirement for me. When and IF I do ever get involved in another relationship, I will NOT even consider going out with someone that belittles me. If it does not feel right, if I do not feel good about myself in the relationship... it probably is NOT "the one". I know far more what is right for me than I realize.
So... ask YOURSELF the following questions: *Did YOU feel supported by your husband? *Did YOU feel respected by your husband?
IF the answer is NO... why is it then that we can still miss our husbands and the friendship we once shared together? I know that it is SO easy to get overwhelmed. But, hopefully it will all fall into place eventually...
JV... You continue to be in my thoughts! Have a wonderful weekend!!! -KIM
-KIM 
