Hi JV, I'm so proud of you and all you're doing to GAL. It sounds like you've come a long way. Now, please forgive me for asking this, as of course you need to make your OWN decision on this, BUT... Is there anything your H could do that would show you he can change? Can you at least give him an ultimatum? It sounds like he was quite beastly to you, but it is so true, as well all know here, that people CAN change. JV, the ball is totally in your court right now. Is there possibly one play left? Hugs, Gibeon