I have to echo DMF's response to you tonight! You are right, JV... DB'ing may not ALWAYS necessarily be about saving our marriages, but saving ourselves. As I see it now, having my H walk away from my life was a gift to me in the way that it forced me to examine myself to make the necessary changes to make me feel better about who I am as a person. DB'ing is also about improving ourselves through "GAL" and making new discoveries about ourselves.
YOU are the MOST IMPORTANT person in YOUR life, JV! So, IMHO... you need to continue to pay attention to your OWN needs and nurture the "inner JV" that no one else can. Ultimately, no one is responsible for YOU except YOURSELF!
I do believe that it may be uncomfortable for your H to observe the changes that are occuring which he neither controls nor understands. But, as I said last night... I AM SOOOOOOO PROUD OF YOU, JV!!! Keep it up! -KIM
