Well one thing that Michelle does say is that there are some cases where the marriage should not be continued and physicial abuse certainly is one of those cases. It sounds like you should have been the one to leave and not him and that you should never have even started to try to win him back but it took changes in you to be able to figure that out. Your situation may be the 1 in 100 or 1 in 1,000 where it is simply not healthy to DB. It is more healthy to just get out. I can't make that determination and certainly don't want to force you to defend your position or actions. You dont have to answer to me or anyone else here. I just wanted to bring forth my feelings with regard to the whole DBing process and what it means and be sure that none of us changes it to fit what we want it to be rather than what it really is.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
