I sent an email to my mom and my sisters letting them know about the agreement H and I have made regarding visitation.
My sisters are being relatively cool about it, but my mom is another story .
She's talking about reconciliation and wanting that for me and H. She said my stepdad feels the same way. Ok -- great. But what is REALLY irritating me is that she feels H needs to sit down and have a talk with my stepdad and me, and my stepdad will take on the role of mediator....?????!!!!!......she feels that "XXXX (my stepdad) can set things straight" between H and me.
How is talking to XXXX going to fix things?! Does he have that "magic wand" we all wish we had?! Does he hold the key to the perfect M?!
She said, "H needs to get over himself and the mistakes he's made. No one can change the past. First step - talk to XXXX. He can fix it. "....and she's not letting up. Even P wrote back and said H and I need to work this out without any interference from others.
AAARRRGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
BTW, when I revealed the sitch to my parents, a few days later, my stepdad loaned me his copy of "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura.....which he bought for my mother. He is an avid listener of Dr. Laura's. I don't necessarily disagree with her views, but I didn't appreciate my stepdad coming off like I was doing something wrong. He had said something to the effect of, "It's plain and simple: feed him, love him, give him sex. If you do that, everything else will be ok."
JV
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination."
Valerie
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." ~ author unknown
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