Blackfoot actually replied briefly to you on my thread. And regarding the postcards, I think I would go ahead and send them with your three names only. You are not being untruthful, you are not doing anything mean or hurtful, just implying the facts. I also think that not doing so is actually playing into her game. You are helping her to keep up the façade. As long as you do this, you keep from putting any pressure on her to change the current sitch.
Read the posts of OG_Lou on the SSM board. I feel he is doing the same thing. He is afraid to really pressure his wife because he is scared of the consequences, even though he emphatically denies this. Also Mrs NOP and her husband NOPkins have some EXCELLENT advice on pushing the spouse out of their comfort zone while getting a life and making yourself attractive. Its tough advice to follow at times, but it has some good points.
