As I posted earlier...been super busy at work. It has forced me to wrap my mind around something other than my sitch for a few hours each day. It's a nice escape.
My hectic work, poor sleep, and letting my DB guard down, might be the reason for some minor backslides inside of my head. The only external signs have been a case of the grumpies around my kids once or twice over the past couple of days. It all peaked after a phone convo w/ W last night.
W and her siblings have been battling over putting their father in a nursing home. He should have been there many months ago. W's B is the power of attorney and he won't pull the trigger to get their F in a home. Here is the convo that bothered me:
Me: Would you like me to talk to BIL about putting your dad in the nursing ho...? W: No! It's not your problem anymore. Me: Okay. W: You don't talk to BIL much anymore do you? I mean...you can talk to him if you want to. Me: No. Not for quite a... W: He's mad at me and won't talk to me.
Then she went on to blast her B for everything that he's done wrong reguarding their F and how he's handled W's A. I validated but was a little hurt by the "it's not your problem anymore" statement. I've since shook it off b/c I don't really know what she meant by it. Probably had nothing to do with the state of our R but that's how I took it at first. She also reinforced the knowledge that it really bothers W when I talk to her family. That really sucks too b/c they were some of my closest friends.
W has really cut down the phone convos over the past week or so. We were talking about an hour every day. Now it's only txt messages and if she has to call, she calls D9's phone. When she does call my phone I violate a minor DB guideline and I try to talk for as long as possible. It serves two purposes. 1) I never talked much on the phone w/ W in the past and long chats on the phone is one of her attractions to OM, so it's a change for me that she likes. 2) I think it's bothering OM to see how much W and I talk on his phone bill. It's my pleasure to be any kind of an annoyance to OM.
Otherwise nothing much has changed in my sitch. Trying to be W's best friend. Trying to be a consistant parent with W to D9 and S6. (BTW - Been doing some shopping for clothes and such with the kids. I think this blows W's mind that I would/could do something like this. W sounded mildly miffed this morning when she discovered from S6 that dad bought D9 some clothes. ThatGuy is supposed to be one of her kids, not an independant responsible adult.) I still get signs that W is glad to be my friend, ie. laughter, smiles, and great hugs. No signs of W wanting anything more than friendship.
One step at a time. One more day...
P.S. Maybe I'll go to Orlando to the Champs Bowl game.
