I've got a few things that have been floating around in my head that I want to jot down here so I don't have to think about them anymore:
1.) Wednesday is W's birthday. I'm not too worked up about what to get her. Officially I won't get her anything, but the kids will give her some gifts and I'll have the majority of the input on their gifts. I'll be mirroring what W did on my b-day - some friendly "Happy Birthday" calls from me and then the gifts from the kids.
2.) Back a few weeks I launched a plan to communicate a lot with W via the phone. Since her phone is on OM's plan, he would be able to see how much W and I talk. For the past week or two we have accumulated at least an hour of talk time every day. Suddenly last Friday W switched to txt msg me for things she used to call about. Makes me wonder if my plan is working. Hmmmm.
3.) Saw this posted on another thread and it hit home with me... When I look for what has made the OM such a compelling target for my wife, it is undoubtably the fact that she perceives him as making no demands on her (YET!), that he just loves her and wants her to be happy. ...from her perspective he is an ideal love, no expectations, no baggage, just affection, admiration, support, etc.
My attempts at detaching (just being the improved me), my conversations with W, and my increased length of phone call time, are hopefully helping me to switch rolls with OM.
