I don't think it's matter of W thinking you're OK with the A, though who knows exactly what's in her mind. And since we don't know, don't try to guess.
Is she "liking" the sitch so as to not disturb it? Again, who knows... but I'd think it's more along the lines of it saves her from having to do anything but keep the status quo you're establishing, thus making her more comfortable.
What I'd really like to say though is that in thinking these things, you're putting the focus of your mind on her a lot, and that may be the reason why your detachment isn't as detached as you'd like it to be. She may be comfortable because of that, but it also sounds like what detachment you do achieve is actually making her uncomfortable in a sense, because:
The more I detach the friendlier W gets and the sexier she gets.
So it's actually causing her to pursue you some all the same. Which, in turn:
makes me want to reach out to her so much.
Which you know, if you act on that and draw close to her in turn:
she'll run the other way
So, this tells you to do what works, which is to stay detached when she pursues.
Will she ever get close enough that she'll want to cross over that romantic line?
What is this with you and romance???? Think about this: why are you looking for romance?
Does she not trust herself to resist my manly charm?
Who knows? That's not an issue anyway, you stud you.
W is driving me crazy with some of her latest changes. She's growing her hair longer. I always wanted her to do that in the past. D9 said the other day that W has bought some thong underwear. She always felt uncomfortable wearing those in the past. These are things she now feels comfortable enough to flaunt in front of me.
These can be aspects of her she wasn't comfortable acting on before, even tho they would've been welcome. But in any event, don't paint it as "flaunting". It just is what it is. When you start giving it these colors, you do yourself a disservice.
I sometimes worry that I'm DBing too well and that she's glad I'm moving on.
Don't assume what she's thinking. Go with the actions that are demonstrated: You're DBing well, detaching, and she in turn is pursuing some.
I want her to direct some of her great passion towards me.
So detach some more and see what happens. But do put these thoughts (as they become desires for you and serve to frustrate you) on the back burner for now.
To sum this whole post up
To sum it up, I'd say that it appears your difficulty with detachment is because you want her romantic, passionate self back, and it's playing on you. You can only control yourself, Guy, so if you can get a handle on that by focusing more on your own self and your own independent life, rather than her and what you'd like to se happen and assuming what she's thinking, she'll likely keep respond by drawing closer.
