Hmmmm. I try not to analyze everything W does but it can't be helped sometimes....
This morning W shows up at the house (her usual day to take the kids to school) loaded with cookie making equipment that she brought from her place. She even had a bowl of sugar cookie dough. She plans on making Halloween cookies with the kids sometime today. This is great, but why bring it all here to the house? She'll have the kids at her place tomorrow night and Saturday, so why not make the cookies then?
I contrast the above behavior with her refusal to "take the bait" on the two of us going to a movie she would like to see. I didn't ask her to go to the movie. I set all kinds of "clues" out in front of her and all she had to do was suggest it and we'd see the movie. It would have looked like it was her idea. She wouldn't pull the trigger. She sadly says she hasn't seen a movie for months. W also commented that the two of us have never seen a "scary/suspense" movie at a theatre together. Well then what was "The Grudge", "The Sixth Sense", "Se7en", "Pet Cemetery", "Graveyard Shift" to name a few over the years? In fact, The Grudge was the last movie we went to together about a year ago. Hmmmmm.
It looks like she'll gladly spend time with me if it involves the kids. If it requires the two of us being alone she's very reluctant.
I try not to analyze everything W does but it can't be helped sometimes.
The instruction manual says that can be corrected by going into your auto-analyzer unit located in the upper left side of your brain and pulling the damn wires out.
This morning W shows up at the house (her usual day to take the kids to school) loaded with cookie making equipment that she brought from her place. She even had a bowl of sugar cookie dough. She plans on making Halloween cookies with the kids sometime today. This is great, but why bring it all here to the house? She'll have the kids at her place tomorrow night and Saturday, so why not make the cookies then?
Hmmm. Were her shoes light colored or dark?
I set all kinds of "clues" out in front of her and all she had to do was suggest it and we'd see the movie.
They were obvious clues to you, but not so to her, or she didn't take the bait, or wasn't interested. Again, I ask, were her shoes light or dark colored at that time? I'm trying to find the pattern here.
It looks like she'll gladly spend time with me if it involves the kids. If it requires the two of us being alone she's very reluctant.
Aha! Doesn't matter why she says what she says, why she thinks what she thinks of the movies she's seen, why she's doing stuff at whose house she makes cookies in - you've got the bottom line by the results you see!! That's what counts.
I say, "dark colored" shoes... but what does that mean? ;-)
...you've got the bottom line by the results you see!! That's what counts.
Thanks NY. I already new this deep down and now that my auto-analyzer unit has been disabled I will remember your point more easily. I seem to have a headache now. I wonder why? <twitch> <twitch>
Having NY answer one of my posts is bitter sweet. Once he says something, there's nothing left for anyone else to say. Please don't feel that you have to back off though NY.
What I was really looking for was someone to teach me some sort of jedi mind trick to help speed up this process. This patience crap is getting old.
Me: These are not the driods you are looking for.
W: These are not the droids I am looking for.
Me: Why don't you kick OM in the crotch and run over his 5th wheel camper with his tractor.
Officially have D9 signed up to visit a C next week. W and I visited with the C yesterday. She seems like a nice lady, very professional, and knows what she is doing. D9 seems to be okay with going to the C. W even said that she'd like to talk to D9's new C if D9 quits going. W said this only half tongue in cheek. She's made other comments in the recent past about going to a C again herself.
Other than D9's C, there's nothing new to report. W and I get along fine, talk on the phone, and no mention of OM at all (except when W had to tell D9's C why D9 is angry with W).
Having NY answer one of my posts is bitter sweet. Once he says something, there's nothing left for anyone else to say.
I'm a New Yorker, what can I say? Here we even get advice from the taxi drivers.
What I was really looking for was someone to teach me some sort of jedi mind trick to help speed up this process. This patience crap is getting old.
Oh is that what you want? Well, "ask for what you want", buddy! ha ha ha.
The only way you can speed up the process is to have time slow down relatively. One way to do that is to sit through an Ashton Kutcher movie marathon.
I didn't do that, but what I did do was this: every time I recognized I was getting impatient, I said to myself, "She's not on my time schedule, of course. Things haven't sufficiently happened so as to have her reconsider the relationship again, is all. So, more time is needed, because this is going to take just the amount of time it needs to take. If more time is needed, then I just need to cultivate more patience. Cultivating more patience is a good thing anyway, it pays off in other areas of life."
It sounds like you're impatient about patience. That's the thing about patience, it takes patience to cultivate patience.
You can also see if things "speed up" by dropping the rope completely.
Are you talking about volleyball? Because I'm pretty sure the college football season got cancelled this year. I haven't seen any results for a couple of weeks now.
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