I will probably go into more detail of what all participating parties had to say during "D9 vs. W" in another post.
I have a few spare minutes so here is a list of the highlights from the D9 and W blow up.
D9 said... - she never wants to stay at mom's place again. - she thinks about the sitch every day, all day since she was in 2nd grade. (She's in 4th grade now.) - she's fed up with having OM around every time she stays at mom's place. - mom says she can't move home b/c she doesn't love dad the way a wife should love a husband. - mom lies. - she hates mom. - she loves mom. - mom is never going to change her ways. - whatever dad is doing to get mom back isn't working. - she does not want to see a C.
W said... - there is usually some kind of scrap between W and D9 when the kids stay at her place. - D9 is constantly checking everything W does. D9 assumes every action is geared toward OM. - D9 thinks dad does nothing wrong ever and everything mom does is wrong. W understands why. - D9 won't leave her alone for a second. - D9 blames the whole sitch on W. W understands why. - OM is not around most of the time the kids are at her place. Usually they never see him. - she tells D9 that mom is trying to "fix things". - she can't help the way she feels. - why can't D9 just accept things the way they are? It has been long enough, she should be "over it". - S6 seems to be okay with the sitch, so why can't D9? - she thinks D9 needs to see a C. She told D9 that dad sees a C.
Nice, huh?
Makes me feel a little like SaHDaddy. D9 is confused b/c we are still M but act like we're D. Maybe I should push for the D so the kids can understand why mom and dad don't live like other M parents. D could relieve some of the pressure from W and D9. Probably not. Who knows. That trap is very alluring sometimes.
Before the D9 vs W battle, W was very very friendly. Seemed to really miss doing normal family type things. Giving me long hugs that cracked my spine. Ending text messages with "I luv u all". I was sure it would all stop and she'd pull back after the battle. But it hasn't.
Playing it one day at a time. Not sure what this weekend will be like. Will D9 go to W's place on not? Oh, there is a C in D9's future.
