Thank you for your reply. You really have given me so much to think about.
Maybe I'm wrong and just being a whimp because I've been in his place.
I think it takes a very strong person to forgive an A or at the very least try to move past and it make the M or R work.
I am going to let your words sink in and try to find other options. I tried talking to H last night about our R but it went no where. I wanted him to know what I am thinking and how I am feeling or still feeling. I did this in a very non threatening way so not to put him on the defense. I am so close to leaving this M. But he had nothing to say and in his defense, he needs time to digest and so I did not push the subject. But he did say that he works hard all day (we both have long stressful work days) and doesn't feel like talking about our R when he gets home.
Thks again for taking the time to answer some of my questions. I will give it some more thought. How have your children reacted?
