Cobra: It's spooky to me because I'm an indecisive wuss that is afraid he'll continue to f&%k up his M!
You can be strong and decisive without being controlling or abusive.
To me that is a fine line. It's a slippery slope that once I try to be strong and decisive I quickly slide down to controlling etc. Also my confidence is directly linked to W. She can shoot down my PMA or "strong will" with a single sentence. (Yes I know, I'm working on my codependence too.)
Now that I have some solid short term goals/actions that are backed up by the examples and logic of the people here, I can keep from withering in the presence of W and remain confident that I'm doing the right thing.
