Another wishy-washy question b/c I don't think I can see the forest for the trees...
What incentive does she have to change the status quo? In some ways does she not have the best of all worlds? She gets to see her kids and be with another man.
Cobra's quote above combined with some things my C has said about me accommodating W too much has got me wondering. Every day that I take the kids to school (usually 3 days a week), W requests that I call her so D9 and S6 can talk to her before they walk into school. Also in the evenings she likes them to call her before going to bed. I would never keep W from talking to the kids but am I being too accommodating?
C says that if W wants to talk to the kids she can call them. That I shouldn't be going out of my way to make sure W gets called. I've read it here before and C has said it too, that there should be consequences to W's actions. I'm just not sure this is a place that it applies. W gets very down when she feels that she has not been kept informed about the kid's activities. She is very appreciative when I keep the kids in close connection with her. Would I be shooting myself in the foot if I made W work a little harder at getting kid info?
This is like a third rail to me and spooky to deal with. How has anyone else out there handled the WAS that wants to be involved in as much of the kid's life but still be a WA in another town 90% of the time? Some of your expert help please.
