How are your kids adjusting to all this? Do they still live with you? Over the summer we have alternated having the kids for a week at a time. We've been very flexible when something came up for the kids that required a trade off for a day or two, such as a friend's b-day party for example. So I've had the kids for just a tad over half the time. When school starts in a couple weeks, I will have them during the week and W will get them on weekends. Of course they have soccer games on the weekends in the fall so they will be in town and I'll get to see them on those days too. W works in town 2 or 3 days a week so she sees the kids on those days when I have them. So overall there's only a day or two each week where they only see one of their parents.
S5 is young enough that he really doesn't know any better that his family life is screwed up. Once in a while he'll ask why mom is crying again, why is dad angry at mom, does mom love you? I'm sure he probably asks W is dad loves her. He's aware of the sitch but to him it's normal, which I wonder if that will affect him in his future R's. OM is a farmer and S5 likes to hang out doing outdoors things in the country.
D9 has been very angry at W. She can't understand what dad did that's so terrible to make mom do what she's doing. She doesn't like OM, but every now and then she slips up and has fun around W and OM. D9 saw the EA develope in front of her. She was 8 then. She never said a word to me because she didn't want me to get hurt and was scared that her parents would get a D. Not until a month or so into the S did I actually have a serious talk with D9 about what I know about OM. We've even talked about the very basics of DBing, b/c she wonders why I didn't throw W out and do all of the "normal" stuff.
W was 8 or 9 when her parents got a D. I think this is a big part of why W hasn't filed yet. She knows what D9 is going through. W is very capable of empathy which seems rare in the WAS. But W does like to point out that if her parents had not D, then she never would have met me. This way W can have it both ways and say that the kids will adjust and been fine if we D.
I still cant listen to country
When W dropped the bomb...George Strait's "I Hate Everything" was just getting popular on the radio. Bawled my head off everytime I heard it.
