Quote: Thank you sooo much for that posting mqo...... So from experience with this, do you think there is actually light at the end of the tunnel????? It's been 2 weeks now that he hasn't talked to me, besides the arguing and he states that maybe it would be best for me to leave for a while while I find myself.
I can only speak for my own feelings in the manner, but yes, anger and resentment creep in. For me it has not been that long or grave an issue. In a sense, he might be 'punishing' you, and now that you are opening up, trying to renew your emotional ties, this is the most effective way for him to let you hurt. I don't know if this is the case, but it sure has to do with resentment is my guess. And it's totally unfair, I have had these feelings myself as well, but things from the heart often outrule those of the head. Maybe he wants to see you truly repent what you have done.
Also, whatever talks you might have could be very unsatisfying for him. Again, from my personal experience, I wasn't at all interrested in hearing all the 'reasons' why my W dialed out, as it all sounded like 'excuses'. Whenever you talk about it, try to talk about his feelings, and why he does feel the way he does, and not so much about why you acted or behaved the way you did.
Again, just an amateur personal view from the couch, my personal feelings/experiences don't have to be similar to that of your husband, but so far what I have read on this BB, most Hd people experience very similar feelings and emotions. It's as if most of the comments here you could have written yourself. (Which is a sigh of relief, to realize you're not insane or a sex maniac. )
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