Quote: He wants me to give him a kiss, hold his hand or give him a hug for no reason at all. I have been for psych eval and have read 2 books and feel I may have a better understanding of everything but now he will not let me touch, kiss or hug him.
Quote: So....what am I supposed to do in the meantime with the H. He leaves before I get up in the morning and comes home after I go to bed. He doesn't say Hello or Goodbye, I don't know how long I can go on like this.
Well, being a HD M with a LD wife, I can say for me (we're just starting now to resolve our 'issues'). the most important part was above all to get recognition. "I'm sorry" or "I know you feel bad about it" is by far not enough. You have to fully realize and try to understand the emotional hurt it has caused. You will have to allow him to express his emotions, pain, hurt, frustration and distress, and be open to whatever he may say, because regardless, it will be painful as once you DO understand the impact this has had on his emotional welbeing, regardless if you did it on purpose or not, if you aware of the pain you were causing, you will realize how much damage 'this' may have inflicted.
Although it may sound like a blame game, it is not. He needs to be sure you are now fulyl aware of the pain he has been through. See it as an open flesh wound that gets ripped open time and time again. There isn't a quick fix for neither of the two of you.
Love and affection ARE very important, as that is where all the issues and grief come from. But where you are now is a healing process, and just 'giving him the love and attention now' in itself is not enough to heal the wounds.
