Hi Shaly, just go to the counselor on your own. Never mind if he goes at first. If he sees you feeling better, he may get curious and want to come. I think you should frame the therapy as you doing this for YOU, not for him or for "us." Take the responsibility for you changing on YOU, and let him worry about whether or not he is going to change.
I try not to look at therapy as a "medical model, i.e., "I'm sick and I need to be cured." I look at it as an educational model: "I need to learn how to do this or do this better." Sort of like coaching... even very good tennis players and golfers take lessons with the pro. Dancers take classes for their whole lives. So you might try thinking of counseling that way.
Just go. And when you go, don't hold back. If you don't like that C, get another one. It may take several tries. People go to the hairdresser, and if they get a bad haircut or color job, they never go back. But if they don't like the counselor, they figure it's their fault and will go forever with no results. Get your money's worth.
