Quote: I don't mean this to be harsh but the way you wrote that came across to me as sounding as though you don't think he has the intellectual capacity to understand what you need him to. He does, and I'm sure you believe he does
From what cine has said about him, I'm not sure he does. He reminds me very much of my father who was proud of being anti-intellectual. I remember he started taking some junior college classes when I was in college. He took an English class and they studied some story that I can't remember the name of... I think it was "The Bear." On the surface of it, this was about some guys who took a boy bear-hunting. But under the surface it was a coming of age, initiation story, and the teacher pointed out some of these themes. My father used to rant and rave about this story... "When the author wrote this, he needed money, he was hungry, he didn't write any 'initiation myth' story-- that's a bunch of intellectual cr@p! He needed the money! That's why he wrote it!" And on and on for years after he took that course. He discounted psychology, art, literature as a bunch of high-brow b.s. When I started taking graduate psychology classes! I could never talk to him about any of this stuff because he would just start ranting about how it was b.s., Freud was cr@p, Picasso was cr@p, modern art and humanistic psychology was lower than cr@p.
He was a pretty smart guy-- but totally closed to anything that seemed "intellectual" to him. My father was also a very angry man-- you could not have a convo without it turning into an argument. Cine's husband sounds a lot like him.
