Fell down on the job

[cinemanymph]

Thanks for the insight, HD. Your powers of deduction are in rare form today! You have H down to a tee. I wonder where H got the idea that it isn't ok not to know something? That if you don't know a thing, you ask about it or read about it to understand it. I never go out of my way to belittle my H intellectually. My Dad did not learn to read until he was in his 50s. I got used to dealing with his illiteracy with sensitivity.

Do you rmember when I mentioned trying to have a conversation about Lord of the Rings (which incidentally H is crazy about because his HS GF was into Tolkien) being a societal analogy? H replied, "For &@#%* sake, it's just a kids story". H only sees what's on the surface and that is why he can't see the deeper meaning of my actions regarding sex. All has seen is me using my past as an excuse not to meet his needs. With my recent growth, he thinks I was capable all along, but just didn't want to. How do I have a conversation about the complexities of response to sexual abuse with someone who won't even entertain the idea that Tolkien had more than a childrens story in mind when he wrote Lord of the Rings?

Lee,
I need to find a different way of saying things, because my way of saying things does not have much meaning for my H.