This is all tough on the kids. I believe they'd be much better off if both parents would agree: You sleep here, we sleep here, end of story. You should hear how W whines, "I wanna sleep with my baby! Why can't I sleep with my baby?!"
On an unrelated topic, I want to chime in on the fact that many of us have more than SEX-starved marriages. If my W were to hug and kiss me, but not ML, I'd still be confused, but I'd probably be happier than I am now with her. The "LD" spouse often denies his/her partner of so much more than sex. We have AFFECTION-starved marriages.
