Paul;

Holy cow have you put up with alot of stuff. Would helping to compare what sizes of home in Tokoy with what you have help her to understand how much you have? I fought the kid in the room for along time it wasn't every night but too darn much. I feel for you man. It seems that there is no simple answer but I agree with who ever said there maybe more than just the house going on here.
Work, kids, could she starting "the change" some of what you taked about happen in my house because of it. Hope you keep your sanity through all.