Karen, I hear you-- I wasn't suggesting joint counseling for Paul's W's anger issues. I was just remembering that he searched long and hard for a Japanese counselor that he thought his W would relate to. I didn't remember reading how that went. I agree her behavior was outrageous.
Cathy, your comments make sense, but have you gone back and read Paul's history rom a year or so ago? There's a lot of context here that might help you tailor your advice to Paul's sitch of being married to a Japanese woman who travels a lot as a flight attendant and who wants the children to sleep with them as she was raised in Japan. He has been REALLY patient and tolerant of the situation for a long time.
