I thought I recalled some marital counseling but I am really talking here about IC and some anger management or something. In my opinion there are some times to let the marital stuff wait and just say to our S - you are out of line and you need to take care of it. I am here for you. I will help you but I won't put up with the bs. If there was a counselor that is already familiar with you both then maybe W can see her individually. Did W apologize for this stuff at any point? I recall the post about the carrying things back and forth stuff. I realize that we are all irrational, babyish and silly at points but this particular set of events read "over the top" to me.
