Sorry MrsNOP, but I have to side with choc on this one.
Every single HD woman on this board has commented at some time about how their husband’s constant lack of interest or outright rejection has caused them to question themselves. They’ve questioned their femininity and their attractiveness. It’s hurt their self-image and their self-worth. Why is it a copout for men to say something similar?
You come into the R with confidence in your strength and sexuality. But the continuous lack of interest and repeated rejection start sapping that confidence. If would take a VERY strong, confident, and emotionally impeccably healthy person to not let the sitch affect their confidence, their self-worth, and their behavior. But that almost unavoidable reaction just exacerbates an already bad sitch. And then you’re in the cycle choc described.
I agree that you can break the cycle. I agree that you can’t base your entire self-worth to be determined by someone else. But I also think it’s virtually impossible NOT to be affected in just the manner choc described.
