So was your post to Heather. Unfortunetly she has a H that will not forgive her. I have read her entire post. Her affair was a kiss that had changed the course of her life. And until her H is willing to forgive her I do not think she will be allowed to move through the stages that you so well explained.
I just want to say this though I do not advocate affairs or divorce in the essence of encouraging them. I do understand how someone can end up in that place.( I am not for or against on this subject because of this). What you did in my eyes is more then reasonable what you have given up to make up for it is more then gracious. Your moral beliefs are profound in my opinion. And I am glad that you came forward with your story it shows a side of what people can do and how they react to there own behavior that most of us do not get the chance to experience often. Just like most of the people on the board are the HD in a relationship most of the people on the board are the left behind spouse or the spouse of someone that had a affair. It is helpful to see the other side to what leads to the affair and how a person feels about it from the perspective of the one that had it.
