Hi ZB, my name's Heather, I usually post in the Infidelity forum, but the title of your thread caught my eye today. I read through from the beginning of just this one thread and something stuck out and I was wondering if you would elaborate some, as I think I would find your thoughts on this helpful in my own situation.
Quote: The nature of the guilt has changed as well. I used to feel guilty for having the affair; now I feel guilty for the damage I did to my M. I know it’s a fine line, but there is a difference...That difference is what has helped me to finally forgive myself.
I too was the unfaithful partner in my M. My H has been insisting that I am sorry for what I did only because it goes against my morals not because I am sorry *to* him. I've been pretty convinced that there isn't a difference and that he was only saying that as a means to allow himself to continue to punish me and stay angry at me. But now that I've heard the same concept from the mouth of a stranger, I am compelled to give the idea some more thought. I would appreciate anything you can add to your statement above.
Thanks!!
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
